Explained: Why Men Respond To Silence And Distance

Let’s face it: Men and women are very different on an emotional level.

You may have heard people say that men tend to respond to silence and remoteness, whereas women respond to communication and honesty.

But is this true? And if so, what are the reasons behind it?

Believe it or not, this is actually one of the most common questions we get from women all around the world.

In fact, as international dating and relationship experts, we’ve studied male psychology and emotion for many years.

Today, you’re going to learn all about how men respond to silence and distance.

Does The Silent Treatment Work On Men?

When all is said and done, do men really respond to silence and distance?

The answer is: YES. But you have to do it the right way.

It involves striking a careful balance between maintaining a distance and keeping him attached to you.

If you let him stray too far away, and ignore him too much, he might become overwhelmed and lose interest, ruining your relationship for good.

But as long as you established a good emotional bond and secured his devotion, he will become crazy with desire for you.

The 7 Reasons Why Men Respond To Silence And Distance

Believe it or not, men are deeply emotional creatures.

They might not admit this, and put up a “tough” appearance, even in front of his best friends.

But the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his feelings.

That’s exactly why silence and distance are so powerful when it comes to men. Done properly, it will trigger the right emotional responses that will make him desire and love you.

Later in this article, we’ll show you exactly how to “lock-in” a man’s devotion and make him emotionally attached to you.

But for now, let’s take a deeper look at the 7 things that silence and distance does to a man:

1. It Makes Him Confused

Guys respond to distance because it breaks the “patterns” that he is used to.

Put yourself in his shoes:

Whether you’ve been together for a long time or you’ve just started dating, at some point he is going to get used to receiving your attention and your positivity.

He will settle into a “comfort zone” where he expects this treatment from you all the time.

Sadly, this may also mean that he starts neglecting you and taking you for granted.

But when you suddenly treat him to silence and distance, you will take him by surprise.

You break this cycle of expectations, and he will become very confused as to why you’re distancing yourself from him.

Before long, he will start thinking and worrying to himself:

What happened to all the “I love you” messages? What happened to all the “Good morning” calls?

In other words, he will be deeply confused on an emotional level.

In most cases, he will eventually reach out in an attempt to contact you. But it’s a good idea for you to keep some distance from him even at that point.

By doing so, you’re just teaching him that you’re not a woman who he can play with whenever he wants, and throw to the side whenever he feels like it.

2. It Breaks His Routines And Habits

If he’s like most men, he probably has his own set of ways and habits of dealing with troubles in your relationship and getting what he wants from you.

I won’t go into detail about what those patterns were, but you’re definitely familiar with them by now.

If you continue to indulge him, he will simply take you for granted and stop making an effort.

On the other hand, he won’t know what to do if you suddenly change your behavior and give him the silent treatment instead.

All of a sudden, nothing he’s done before will make sense, and he will be left speechless.

And this is the perfect trigger for him to reflect on his actions and reconnect with his deepest feelings for you.

3. It Gives Him The Fear Of Losing You Forever

Let’s face it: Guys generally have short attention spans.

Until this point, he may never have considered losing you before you chose to give him a taste of silence and distance.

It’s easy for a guy to become too distracted and too lost in his thoughts to slow down and think about how important his partner is to him.

And when you’re acting from the kindness of your heart, it’s easy to dedicate your attention to him, treat him with all of your love, and show an eagerness to set aside your problems whenever they arise.

But this only makes it easier for him to take you for granted.

He will only realize his mistake once you start distancing yourself from him and giving him a hint of how difference his life would be like without your love and care.

This fear of loneliness will reignite his feelings for you. And if you do this correctly, you will be able to secure his devotion and “lock-in” his feelings for you.

4. He Starts Thinking About You Non-Stop

Because he’s not used to the silence and distance that you are treating him to, he will begin to think about you all the time.

He’s used to being well-informed and always updated about you, your location and your plans. But all of a sudden, he’s left in the dark.

During this time, he won’t know what you’re up to, where you are, or with whom, which will drive him crazy.

Throughout the day, he will be itching with curiosity and wondering what you’re doing, if you’ve made any major life changes, and what’s going on with you.

And the more he spirals into his thoughts, the stronger his craving and desire for you will be.

5. He Reflects About The Past

Because your silence and distance will leave him in an emotional state, he will likely begin to investigate everything that occurred in your relationship.

And it won’t take him long to realize what he did wrong to lose you.

He’ll be reflecting on the type of person he was and the type of person you were in your relationship.

He’ll begin overthinking and burdening himself with truly attempting to figure out what happened and what faults he made for the first time.

He’ll come to conclusions about what he could have done better and how your relationship would have evolved if he’d been wise enough to do the correct thing.

He’ll recognise at this time that he should’ve appreciated your words and passion for addressing problems sooner, because your silence and distance irritate him.

6. He Becomes Emotionally Charged

He’ll almost certainly try to contact you, and if you ignore his texts or calls, he’ll become enraged. And it’s no surprise: his ego has been bruised, and he’ll hunt for methods to prove that he can have you.

While this isn’t the emotion that every lady hopes to experience when she tries to win a guy’s heart, it works.

There is often a power struggle in romantic relationships, especially in early and immature ones. This time, you’re demonstrating your strength, which irritates him.

It also demonstrates to him that there is a side of you that he can appreciate: A girl who puts herself first and won’t allow a man play with her heart.

7. He Will Begin To Miss You

One of the best ways to intensify a man’s feelings for you is to withdraw from him and make him miss you.

Silence and distance appeal to men for a variety of reasons.

If you were always there with him, he never had the opportunity to miss you. No matter how much someone loves you, some time apart is sometimes necessary to rekindle the relationship’s fire.

Consider all the ways you made him feel safe and secure… It might feel good for the both of you, but too much can put your relationship in danger too.

On the contrary, he will miss you now that you’re not by his side, and once again feel a craving for you.

He’ll be thinking about everything you did together and all the good things you brought into his life.

He may not feel this way for the first few days, but as time goes, he’ll understand he needs you, which is why it’s crucial for you to be patient when going through with this.

4 Positive Benefits That You Will Get From Some Silence And Distance

1. You Will Let Go Of Negative Energy

You’ll finally feel carefree after so much overthinking, overanalyzing, and attempting to fix your problems.

When you choose the silent treatment as your method of dealing with problems, you’ll find that you can quickly let go of negativity and make room for positive in your life.

You’ll feel healthier, smarter, and more powerful… Everything that has been driving you nuts for weeks, months, or years will now be a distant memory, and the only thing on your mind will be to look after yourself.

2. You Will Focus On Yourself

Get him out of your brain and start doing things that make you happy.

Maybe you’ll rekindle an old interest, resume reading or exercise, or spend more time with your girls — whatever it is, it will make you feel like you’ve finally found yourself.

No longer are you concerned with how your boyfriend feels or thinks; instead, you are concerned with what you can do next to make yourself happy and thrilled. Concentrate solely on yourself; this is the only way to achieve success.

There’s always a danger that whatever you’re doing won’t succeed, no matter how hard you try.

There are a few typical blunders that most girls make, and even one of them can significantly reduce your chances of success.

3. You Will Let Go Of Anger And Resentment

It’s much simpler to think clearly once you’ve removed yourself from a stressful scenario.

You’ll realise that everything that happened between you and your lover makes sense, and you’ll be soothed by this understanding.

4. You Will Reconnect With Your Inner True Self

If you do it well, you’ll have all of this extra time and energy to devote to yourself. If you pay less attention to him, you’ll be astonished at how much more you can get done (and enjoy).

You’ll rediscover who you were before meeting him, which will be really invigorating.

The Types Of Men Who Will Not Respond To The Silent Treatment

Married Men

Marriage necessitates ongoing effort on both sides. The no-contact rule plainly does not apply in this case, just as it is difficult to apply in long-distance relationships.

If you’re facing marital problems, I believe the following advice is the best for you:

Because you can’t entirely cease interacting with your spouse, the “don’t talk to him” section of the rule doesn’t apply to you.

Stop making nasty comments, nagging, asking him to do things for you, lecturing, yelling… and other things like that. You’d be shocked at how good this is for your marriage.

If you’re having serious and troubling issues, I strongly suggest visiting a marriage counsellor and seeking professional guidance.

Stubborn Men

He’ll never contact you since he’s too arrogant. Even if he does, he’ll act like the type of guy who only contacts you to make a point about how much he wants you.

Everything is a power struggle for him, and he will punish you for being cold to him by becoming even colder.

Men Who Have Been Hurt Badly Before

You can’t expect the silent treatment to work if you’re the one who broke his heart and harmed his sentiments.

If you want to work with him, you must be patient, because not contacting him would simply demonstrate that you are unsuitable for him, which is not your purpose.

Insecure Men

He’ll believe he doesn’t deserve you because of his insecurities. He’ll be terrified of rejection, so he won’t contact you to avoid having to deal with it.

Even if he’s the one who committed the mistakes that caused you to employ this strategy, he’ll view your silence as proof that he shouldn’t hope to be with you.

Avoid These 5 Mistakes During A Period Of Silence

1. Don’t Expect To See Results Right Away

You may be too eager to see the results and expect them the same day you begin the silent treatment. But that’s simply not realistic.

Consider it like a diet: Just because you ate well and exercised for a few days doesn’t guarantee your body will alter quickly. It will take some time.

Similarly, it will take time for him to go through all of the stages of dealing with what you’re doing so that he can recognise what’s going on and react.

You’ll also make mistake number two if you become too enthused about seeing results too quickly.

2. Don’t Get Frustrated Or Desperate

If you don’t see the results you want quickly enough, you may become frustrated and believe the strategy doesn’t work, leading you to revert to your old bad behaviours.

It’s the same as going on a diet.

If you don’t see yourself losing weight, you either revert to eating bad foods and exercising infrequently, or you wallow in self-doubt and negativity, believing you’ll never lose weight, slowing down your progress.

In a relationship, this could mean that you start phoning and texting him again, or that you start commenting on his social media postings, or that you begin to believe that you are unlovable and will never find the proper man for you.

You won’t get far if you’re depressed. Keep an optimistic attitude in mind.

3. Don’t Try To Play The Jealousy Game

It won’t work to actively consider ways to upset him and make him envious. That’s something that should be reserved for immature children who don’t know how to interact with others.

He’ll most likely see right through your ruse, and the entire scheme will backfire.

4. Don’t Bring Up The Past

It isn’t your responsibility to relive what happened — that is something you should delegate to him.

You might come to the wrong conclusions if you start overthinking about your past troubles because you miss him and want him back.

You’re on your way to failure, and you’re well aware of it.

There are always exceptions to the norm, even if you do everything flawlessly. Some guys will just not respond to this type of treatment, depending on the conditions.

5. Don’t Obsess Over Him In Your Head

If you merely cut away the communication element, this won’t function. You must make every effort to avoid thinking about him for the duration of this time.

There’s no way you’ll get through this if you’re obsessed with where he is and what he’s doing. The entire procedure will feel like cruel emotional assault, and it will be far too forced to succeed.

Concentrate on yourself, your needs, and spending your time with productive activities.

How To Capture His Heart And Make Him Fall For You

Here’s what we’ve realized after so many years of experience as dating coaches:

It’s really easy to make men fall for you once you know the “cheat code”.

See, most women don’t really know how men think, and why they act the way they do…

In fact, they go through their whole life never meeting the perfect guy who treats them right.

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There are special tricks you can use to target the “emotional triggers” inside his mind.

If you use them the right way, he will start to feel a deep desire for you, and forget about any other woman in his life…

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As women, we understand how you feel.

But no matter what other people say, always remember:

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